Dear Girl Unfiltered...

I know that growing up can be tough, especially for young girls. Trust me, I’ve been there. In fact, we’ve all either been there or are going through it right now. We all take different things away with us from our childhood or teenage years and without realising it, those precious years can be what makes or breaks us.

But I want you to know that you have a choice. People would probably describe me as confident and outgoing and very determined in my life ambitions but I’m going to tell you a secret.

Those qualities definitely haven’t always come naturally to me.

In fact, for most of my teenage life I felt as though I wasn’t allowed to be the person I wanted to be. I felt as though I had to be what other people wanted me to be or be what other people would consider as ‘cool’ just to fit in and be accepted.

I had to suppress my light and this could have had a terrible effect on who I turned out to be. In fact, I could have let that feeling of suppression stay with me my entire life and if I had, I would have never been able to achieve the things that I am now.

Luckily, I had my mother who supported me in everything; the good and the bad. She was my rock. She supported me through the tears of loneliness, the tears of feeling unaccepted and friendless. My mother nurtured that little light inside me that she knew could one day shine. Without her guidance, I wouldn’t be where I am now in life.

Unfortunately, not everyone has somebody to support and guide them like my mother did for me and that is why I am reaching out to you girls and asking you to join the Girl Unfiltered girl group. Know that you are not alone.

Being a young girl in this world can be a scary and lonely place but I want you to know that it doesn’t have to be that way. Take a look at the girl sitting next to you in class. She’s probably feeling just as lost and confused as you are.

Even take a look at the Queenbee of the class. She’s probably feeling loneliest of all.

We all have special lights inside of us yet most of us feel the need to hide it so that we can conform to what is acceptable or ‘cool’.

Yet, what would happen if we all just acknowledged this and accepted that we all have our own individual lights and that we are all unique?

Well, the world would certainly be a brighter place to live in!

People act out of fear or jealousy because a lot of us feel very insecure about who we are. If you’ve ever been put down or made fun of by another person, it’s actually got nothing at all to do with you but everything to do with the other person. They may actually be feeling very insecure about themselves and therefore to make themselves feel better, they put others down around them. If every young girl knew this though, then the classroom, and eventually the world, could become a much more accepting place.

I wish that I had always known this when I felt teased for being who I was but it’s taken hindsight to look back and understand that those that made me feel unaccepted and lonely, were only feeling the same about themselves. And to be honest, looking back, I realize now that during times where I was feeling insecure, I was capable of putting others around me down too. We’re all capable of it.

I just don’t want you to feel as though you have to suppress your light. You are a special person. Everybody is special and we all need to learn to nurture that. Allow your light to shine and in doing so, you will allow other people’s light to shine and grow around you. And soon, you will start attracting only light. But to do this, we all have to be brave and accepting of ourselves and who we are.

Don’t feel alone in this because growing up is a very special journey and you owe it to yourself to make the most of it; whether it be good or bad because we all learn from our mistakes. It’s such a scary time but join the Girl Unfiltered gang because we just want your light to shine!

Love and Light Always,

Helena xoxo

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