The Best Piece Of Relationship Advice I've Ever Been Given Is...

Whatever happens, always remain true to yourself.

What does it mean to stay true to yourself? Read more on my blog What Does It Mean To Stay True To Yourself...

Remember boys will come and go but the person that will always remain with you, is you!

So whatever relationship you are in, the person you must value the most is yourself.

Does that sound strange? Or selfish? It's actually the opposite of selfish! Because the more you value and love yourself, the more you are actually capable of giving healthy and positive love to others.

It’s all too easy to get caught up in the drama of a relationship and to end up losing sight of what actually serves you best.

Just because you’re in a relationship, that does not give the other person the right to treat you however they like. Core values of respect and love must remain. Otherwise, what’s the point of the relationship?

I personally love having a boyfriend to share experiences with and to learn, grow and develop with. I love the joy that can bring into my life. BUT, that does not mean that I choose to date just anybody. And if I don’t feel that person is adding value to my life, I seriously reconsider having them in it.

Because at the end of the day, if the relationship is largely made up of…

  • Why didn’t he call me back!?
  • Why is he ignoring me!?
  • Late night argumentative phone calls
  • Worrying what he’s doing and who he’s with
  • Feeling any kind of anxiety around the relationship
  • Trying to do things to make him more interested in you
  • Lack of sleep

Well, those things are definitely not adding to your life! In fact, they are taking time away from all the wonderful ways you could be growing and experiencing life.

And…you are no longer staying true to yourself. Read my blog on...Top Ten Things To Remember When Staying True To Yourself

If you understand that any relationship in your life is there simply to ADD to it, not take away from the wonderful person that you are…it’ll make you an incredibly powerful young woman!

So before you get into a relationship with anyone..and especially before you start giving yourself physically and emotionally to that person, really evaluate how much happiness this person will add to your life and whether it’s what you truly want. There is no pressure for you to be with anyone! You have your whole life to be in a relationship. And right now, have fun and be happy! When that stops happening…bye bye!

Love Always,

Helena

xoxo

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